Who’s Buying the Drinks?
It’s happened to all of us, meeting a bunch of people, everyone’s having a drink and then one by one, everyone starts buying the table rounds of cocktails. Seems like no big deal right? Not necessarily. A recent meeting with new couples put this question on the table for us and I thought I’d share our take on it here. So the question is, when you’re meeting a new lifestyle couple, do you get involved in buying drinks for others? Our answer? No, for several reasons.
The most important reason is that buying our own drinks keeps us very independent of who we’re with. Keeping that separate bar tab keeps the playing field level. As soon as the rounds start getting bought, whether it’s out of pure kindness or persuasion, we feel that we owe the other couple(s) something. We always try to remain as separate a unit as possible when meeting for the first time, it makes any meetings where no connection is made, much easier to eject ourselves from.
Like many couples in this economic crisis, we’re on a tight budget every month so buying our own drinks allows us to better control how much money we spend on any one play date. Let’s face it, buying drinks at bars can be pricey and attending lifestyle parties and events can be quite an expense, especially if it’s a themed event and we try to do as much as we can every month. There’s no better way to overspend all your play money in one outing, than buying rounds of drinks for people you may not really be connecting with.
Lastly, from a simple safety point of view, all our drinks must go from bartender directly to Mr. Kinky or me. We can’t be certain our drink is safe if it goes through anyone else’s hands and many times when the rounds get bought, the glasses get shuffled around. I didn’t think it would be such a concern in the lifestyle, however, we’ve heard several horrific stories that we just can’t ignore.
So there you have it. Buying your own drinks allows you to remain independent of the people you’re with, have control over how much money you’re spending and keeps your situation the safest it can be while buying drinks out. Does it make us seem rude or aloof or not really into the couple? I don’t think so. We don’t offer to buy anyone any drinks and if the others we’re with offer it to us, we kindly decline and let them know we’ve got our own tab. As long as we don’t make it a big dramatic deal, neither will the couple(s) we’re with.
Stay Naughty!
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